What a Mother should or shouldnt do...

I was looking at this page on Facebook and what caught my eye was a post about vaccines and as I have blogged about before I do not agree with everything Dr.'s try to push on babies when they are so little. So I was interested in the site so I went to check it out and it was all about how c-sections are horrible for mom and baby, and how you shouldn't trust Dr's and modern medicine, crying it out is just heartless, and circumcising your baby is terrible (basically just really really liberal lol)...I'm not going to lie I was a little offended by everything on that site...even though I know it was probably not meant in an attacking way it was very attacking of people with opposite views. (which I know I have posted things that are definitely more then questionable about attacking peoples opinions but never ever about peoples children only about politics and someone attacking my political views is WAY different then attacking the decisions I make about my child)

Anyways the site had an article about how c-sections affect your life vs. natural labor and how c-sections "ruin" your life right down to your sex life...or so they seem to think that way....I really did feel like a failure for having a c-section it was one of the most devastating traumatizing things I have ever been thru in my life...it gave me nightmares and I could barely move for weeks because it was so painful and on top of it all I had this new little life that I had to concentrate on above all else...so yes it did make me feel like a failure and it did make life hard for awhile including strain on my marriage....but Kila was stuck because she was too big and the cord was wrapped around her foot several times (which they did not realize until after Kila was out) so to me if I didn't listen to the advice of my very experienced Dr. who was not by any means all about the slicing and dicing who knows what serious damage could have happened to Kila and having a healthy baby was all that truly mattered to me more then risking it....

Kila is now 7 months old and she is healthy and beautiful and doing everything a baby at her age should be and the c-section I had seems like a million years ago....my scar is barely visible because I had an amazing Dr. who did an amazing job. I don't believe that even if I would have had Kila naturally things would be any different right now.

These people who are making all these splashes don't have a PhD probably not even a college degree at that ( I'm not hating because I don't have a college degree either) I'm just saying how is it their place to tell everyone that what they are doing like vaccines, c-sections, and etc. is wrong? I have always had my opinions about myself and my own child but I would never go around posting things telling people to STOP what they are doing to their own child or what they have decided already because that is not my place at all.

I know way more people that do everything a Dr. says like all the vaccines and whatever else and their children are healthy and beautiful just like mine who hasn't had all the vaccines and I'm sure just like someone else's child who hasn't had any at all. Kila is just as healthy and beautiful as a baby who was born naturally. She has been right on the dot with motor skills and mental development and I couldn't be happier with the way she is progressing and growing everyday. So really are c-sections that big of a deal? All I cared about and all I ever will care about is having a healthy happy baby.

I believe that there are many reasons why there are hospital births, c-sections, vaccines, and etc. and I do believe that these things have saved many many lives vs. the more traditional methods and I will never regret my choices that I have made with my child about these things no matter what anyone might think. I think that each individual Mother will do something different with each of her children and ultimately Mother knows best. So I would like to see all these extremists (who go both ways) to can it and stick it where the sun don't shine because I believe everyone is doing the best they know how even if everyone does not agree. So everyone should STOP posting what you think a Mother should be and the choices she should make with her child because I can garuntee any Mother who loves their baby as much as I love mine will only do what she thinks is best and that might not be what you think is best. =)