What a Mother should or shouldnt do...

I was looking at this page on Facebook and what caught my eye was a post about vaccines and as I have blogged about before I do not agree with everything Dr.'s try to push on babies when they are so little. So I was interested in the site so I went to check it out and it was all about how c-sections are horrible for mom and baby, and how you shouldn't trust Dr's and modern medicine, crying it out is just heartless, and circumcising your baby is terrible (basically just really really liberal lol)...I'm not going to lie I was a little offended by everything on that site...even though I know it was probably not meant in an attacking way it was very attacking of people with opposite views. (which I know I have posted things that are definitely more then questionable about attacking peoples opinions but never ever about peoples children only about politics and someone attacking my political views is WAY different then attacking the decisions I make about my child)

Anyways the site had an article about how c-sections affect your life vs. natural labor and how c-sections "ruin" your life right down to your sex life...or so they seem to think that way....I really did feel like a failure for having a c-section it was one of the most devastating traumatizing things I have ever been thru in my life...it gave me nightmares and I could barely move for weeks because it was so painful and on top of it all I had this new little life that I had to concentrate on above all else...so yes it did make me feel like a failure and it did make life hard for awhile including strain on my marriage....but Kila was stuck because she was too big and the cord was wrapped around her foot several times (which they did not realize until after Kila was out) so to me if I didn't listen to the advice of my very experienced Dr. who was not by any means all about the slicing and dicing who knows what serious damage could have happened to Kila and having a healthy baby was all that truly mattered to me more then risking it....

Kila is now 7 months old and she is healthy and beautiful and doing everything a baby at her age should be and the c-section I had seems like a million years ago....my scar is barely visible because I had an amazing Dr. who did an amazing job. I don't believe that even if I would have had Kila naturally things would be any different right now.

These people who are making all these splashes don't have a PhD probably not even a college degree at that ( I'm not hating because I don't have a college degree either) I'm just saying how is it their place to tell everyone that what they are doing like vaccines, c-sections, and etc. is wrong? I have always had my opinions about myself and my own child but I would never go around posting things telling people to STOP what they are doing to their own child or what they have decided already because that is not my place at all.

I know way more people that do everything a Dr. says like all the vaccines and whatever else and their children are healthy and beautiful just like mine who hasn't had all the vaccines and I'm sure just like someone else's child who hasn't had any at all. Kila is just as healthy and beautiful as a baby who was born naturally. She has been right on the dot with motor skills and mental development and I couldn't be happier with the way she is progressing and growing everyday. So really are c-sections that big of a deal? All I cared about and all I ever will care about is having a healthy happy baby.

I believe that there are many reasons why there are hospital births, c-sections, vaccines, and etc. and I do believe that these things have saved many many lives vs. the more traditional methods and I will never regret my choices that I have made with my child about these things no matter what anyone might think. I think that each individual Mother will do something different with each of her children and ultimately Mother knows best. So I would like to see all these extremists (who go both ways) to can it and stick it where the sun don't shine because I believe everyone is doing the best they know how even if everyone does not agree. So everyone should STOP posting what you think a Mother should be and the choices she should make with her child because I can garuntee any Mother who loves their baby as much as I love mine will only do what she thinks is best and that might not be what you think is best. =)

To Believe or Not....

I choose not to believe in ghosts or paranormal activity because I believe that if you choose to open your mind up to stuff like that you are inviting it in so I try to close my mind to stuff like that as much as possible but I do enjoy Ghost stories and scary movies just as much as the next person and I even have one of my own stories as I'm sure lots of people do....I'm staying Switzerland on my story though so I'm not saying I believe or don't believe what I saw with my own two eyes but you can make your own conclusions...

This happened to Chantel and I when we were Juniors in High School and I had my old Bug Truck (89' Isuzu pick-up truck that said the Bug Stopper down the side and had bugs and mice painted on it! lol a lot of people know The Bug Truck!) We were going down the Farmington side of South Side River Road....for those of you who don't know where that is just picture a back hills old country windy road with nothing but houses on it....

It was pretty late at night and pitch black outside....we were fixing to pull up to the big 4 way stop on that road where you can either turn right to go to Crouch Mesa, left to Flora Vista, or straight into Aztec and they have these huge stop signs....well I was driving a long and out of the corner of my eye I thought I caught a glimpse of a person starting to cross the street....so I tapped on my breaks because it startled me but as soon as I thought I saw someone it was gone and all there was, was one of those huge stop signs so I figured my eyes were just playing a trick on me and I kept going

So just a few seconds later I was talking to Chantel and I said I could of swore that stop sign was a....and before I could finish my sentence she cut me off and said a person! And then we both described the same thing....

It could be just a coincidence but still creepy! lol I have always thought South Side is creepy anyways but this definitely made it worse! So I guess you can make your own conclusion if it was mere coincidence or not! lol

Let Me Have Yours so I can Give to Them

I am a compassionate person....although I am a little rough around the edges I do have compassion for people no matter who they are or what part of the world they live....but here's my story...

when Glenn picked me up from the airport from the quick trip I took to New Mexico there were some ladies sitting at a table where you pick up your luggage and they called us over to talk to us and I knew I should have just ignored them but Glenn and I walked over with Kila in her stroller and the woman asked us if we were in the military and Glenn said yes (still not sure what she was up to) and then she started to tell us all about the needy children and how God loves Kila and how those needy children needed us to donate our money for help and while yes I do feel very sorry for those needy children I told the woman that I had no cash to give so what do you think she says? She tells us there is an ATM across the way!

I'm thinking What?!? This lady can clearly see that Glenn and I are young and we have a baby and she asked us if we were military so that should tell her right there that we cant be taking money out at the ATM to donate to someone who should have bought the 75 cent condom if they couldn't afford to raise a child.

I am all about asking people to donate money and charity and I'm not saying that no one should help these children because it is not there fault that they were brought into a world where they couldn't be afforded but I think people should be a little smarter on who they ask for money! There were plenty of business men/women walking by us and she goes for the young couple with a baby! Gees.....

then I feel guilty for not giving any money because she is just sitting there staring at us trying to get my luggage waiting on us to go over to the ATM and pull out our hard earned money.....to me that's saying please go take the money you have to feed your child to feed these other ones because they need it more...then she kept saying how god loves Kila and she is blessed and etc. which makes me feel like she is trying to make me feel guilty because Glenn and I have provided everything Kila needs and she is a well fed, well dressed little princess!

Even though Glenn and I try to give Kila the world we still live on a budget...Washington is so expensive and the economy is scary....I'm sorry but I have to think about my own child before somebody elses children....people need to stick together and help each other but they have to take care of themselves first.....that lady should be going after movie stars and pro athletes instead of a young military couple with a baby.....

All because of Bats!

So I haven't been able to write anything on here in awhile because Glenn and mines log house in Washington got bats in it! I know right! Bats?!? WTH! lol Kila had been fussing one night so Glenn and I had been up with her for awhile and she was in our bed about 4:00am and it was completely dark and I kind of caught a glimpse of something out of the corner of my eye so Glenn grabbed his flashlight and shined over that way and there were 2 bats flying over our heads!!! I hid Kila and I under the covers and yelled at Glenn to do something! (he didnt know what to do!!) then they flew out and flew upstairs and thru a gap that our house had leading to the outside (its a log house it has flaws lol)

so we got pest control over to our house and they pretty much told us there was nothing they could do about it but we could seal up all the holes in our house but we didnt need to be staying here with a baby in the house! So Kila and I high tailed it to New Mexico for 2 weeks and left poor Glenn behind to fight off the bats! hahaha (flying is very stressful with a baby by the way lol)

Well I just thought everyone would like to know my traumatic experience with bats and to also let everyone know that everything is fine and back to normal and I came home to my husband cooking me a wonderful steak dinner and giving me a beautiful bracelet/watch! I love it and I love him! Life is back to Normal....(kind of)

Age is Just a Number

Meet Kila my 4 month old baby girl. She is beautiful, sweet, and spoiled like no other! Kila was born March 15th, 2010. Her daddy and I had been married almost 2 years when we had her and she is the center of our world. Every day is an adventure with Kila.

My husband, Glenn and I have no prior experience with babies in fact Kila is the first newborn baby that we have ever even held! So needless to say this has definitely been a new experience with plenty of mistakes so far. We were always the people that said we were never going to have children because we didnt like babies hahaha well as you can see that didn't hold up very long!

Having a baby has been the best thing that has ever happened to me and I love her more then words can describe. Although, I am not recommending everyone my age run out there and get pregnant because everyone is different but there is definitely a lot of benefits to having a baby young when its the right time.

I know there are a lot of people who think that having a baby young is a mistake and you should enjoy the time you have to yourself while you can because once you decide to bring a baby into this world you will have to think of him/her first for the rest of his/her life. I know people have made comments that being older is way better then being my age (20 years old) and that I would have been better off to wait until I'm a few years older.

Let me ask you something though....how is it that I was too young when I am married, Glenn has a great job being in the military which allows me to be a stay at home mom and still afford anything and everything we want for Kila, we have a plan for her college already, I don't party or drink, we have amazing insurance that doesn't require us to pay a penny for medical costs, and we live in an 1800 sq ft house with 3 bedrooms and a huge backyard which has plenty of room for my little angel. Kila comes first in our lives period. So how is that too young? 

On the other hand a baby is a lot of work and stressful so if your not ready to dedicate your entire being to something else then I strongly recommend waiting because a baby will test every nerve in your body (well actually I think my husband tested my nerves when Kila was first born more then Kila! lol)

I feel so bad for the children who have young moms who only think about partying and hanging out with their friend or impressing the boys. That is when someone my age is too young and immature to have a child. I don't understand how they can just expose their children to that or leave them behind while they go party with their friends. I'm not saying that they shouldn't have any friends but I think they should be careful of the company they keep. A lesson that could very easily be learned the hard way.

Anyways, the moral of the story is before anyone says stuff to girls about their ages and when they decide to have babies, maybe they should think about how everyone is different and just because they weren't ready at the age of 20 to have a baby doesn't automatically mean everyone else shouldn't be ready either.

Thanks for reading and God Bless =)

Vaccines

So I was watching a documentary on vaccines today from PBS' Frontline and I must say that I was a little discouraged by it's information. It was very one sided and mainly interviewed people that stressed how much you need to get your children vaccinated. It did show a little bit of the other side of things but mainly made it out to be scared parents against Dr.'s which I feel should not be the issue at hand. The issue should be are vaccines truly safe to give to every child?

Vaccines have been linked to such things as Autism in small children and even though it is a very small percentage and rare that small percentage could be one of our children. Every child is different. Although there is little scientific evidence to back this up I do believe that it is very very possible that Autism could be linked to vaccinations especially with as many parents as there are claiming that it is without a doubt because they vaccinated their child.
Frontline interviewed Dr. Offit or better known as "Dr. Profit" who helped with the Rotavirus Vaccine and let me just tell you...something about this man just did not sit well with me. He has made million upon millions of dollars off of his vaccines so why wouldn't he be promoting his vaccine? Saying whatever he can to make you go get your child the vaccine that has made him a very rich man! When asked about the money side of it he stuttered and spewed out a half cocked answer that the money doesn't matter which is total BS it was almost as if you could taste the lie that was coming out of his mouth. Shame on Frontline for letting him slide right on by with that answer! Of course the money matters to him that's all he cares about!

They of course did not go out of their way to find any medical professionals that agree with holding off on some or all vaccines which I found very frustrating. They did have Jenny McCarthy who is like the poster child for Generation Rescue (an organization against vaccines and information on Autism) Jenny McCarthy has a son who she feels got Autism after giving the MMR vaccine as many other parents also feel but of course they fired shots at her because she is a former playboy bunny so that must mean she in uneducated. What I saw was a woman who is fighting for what she believes in and is trying to help parents to see that it is okay to question whether or not to give their child an immunization. I feel as though society looks down on you if you chose to question vaccinations.

 You see I have opted not to give my baby girl her shots yet because I feel like she needs a chance to build her own immune system out in this big world before we start shooting her up with dead viruses and all kinds of other things that are in shots like mercury and formaldehyde. I have felt really good about the decisions I have made thus far with her immunizations but now the time is coming when I'm thinking about when to start the school mandated ones so she may go to public school. She will need the MMR which I am scared to death to give her. I know its very rare for something bad to happen but the fact is that it DOES happen.

I have a Dr.'s appointment coming up soon for my daughter and I am dreading it because I know the Dr is going to want to give all kinds of vaccines but I just don't know if I'm ready for that yet or not......my daughter is my world and if anything happened to her if I did or didn't give her the shots I would never forgive myself. So I am just going to have to go with my gut as I have so far and everything will happen exactly the way its meant to be.

I would like to hear what others think on this topic though. I think it is very interesting and very controversial which is exactly my cup of tea =) Thanks for listening and God bless.

Never Have I Ever....

This will be my first blog and I'm pretty excited to get started because I always have so much on my mind and so much to say! I must warn you though I am impulsive and indecisive so my ideas and opinions of things are subject to change.

I named this blog a little bit of this and that because that is exactly what its about! I always have a little bit of this and that on my mind so the title just seemed appropriate. Also, forgive my grammar and spelling if some or most of it is wrong hahaha I'm not exactly perfect or relatively good at either.

My name is Sarah Hardin I have a daughter who was born on March 15th, 2010 and she is the light of my life. I am also married to the love of my life, his name is Glenn Hardin and we were married June 7th, 2008. I'm sure you will be hearing a lot about them through out this blog!

My passion is photography! I love catching special moments of peoples lives or producing a picture that someone feels beautiful in and will hopefully always look back on a picture I took of them and love it because time comes and goes but a photograph is forever.

Well that's enough about me for right now but I am extremely excited to get this blog going and I hope people read it from time to time!

Just a warning some of my topics that pass through my mind a lot are very controversial so if you cant handle it and be intelligent then move along =) Thank you and God bless!